Romans 15:2–3 tells us, “Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to his edification. For even Christ did not please Himself . . .” Who is your closest neighbor?
Your husband. How can you edify (build, improve) your mate and thereby enhance his self-worth? By discovering—and doing—what pleases him.
If you are creative, pleasing your mate may be a natural part of your personality. But a less creative person may need some coaching in becoming a partner pleaser. And all of us need an occasional cue card to remind us to reach out. Here are a few ideas:
- Write him a letter and send it to his office, or put a love note in his lunchbox or briefcase.
- Prepare his favorite meal.
- Arrange an evening out for just the two of you.
- Wear his favorite dress with your hair done the way he likes it.
- Purchase something small and frivolous for him that he won’t buy himself.
- Give him a nicely framed picture of yourself, or of you and the children, for his office.
- Surprise him with an all-expense-paid trip to do something he likes, such as golf, fishing, or hunting trip.
- Put the children to bed early and prepare a candlelight dinner.
- Do something that especially pleased him when you were dating.
- Read Scriptures and pray with him regularly.
- Take walks together.
- Keep your junk out of the garage.
- Greet your husband warmly after work.
- Wear his favorite negligee or buy a new nightgown to add sizzle to your evening attire.
- Clean out the car for him.
Sometimes the smallest gestures can make the biggest difference in your marriage.
© Real FamilyLife. By Barbara Rainey